Comments

1. Daniel says

   May 3, 2015 at 2:14 pm

   Very balanced and perceptive Marc. You talk a lot of sense.

   • Marc Dylan says

     May 3, 2015 at 4:34 pm

     Thanks Daniel!

2. Tony says

   May 24, 2015 at 10:30 pm

   Hello Marc, long time since my last post. I saw your video blog about the gossiping friend and what you said in response to Andrews question “spot on mate”, but I think his “friend” has an extremely low self esteem, and yes Andrew just cut your friend out of your life. This person is very negative and spreading rumours of any kind just creates more negative behaviour. Yes Marc life is too short to be worried about being liked by everyone, especially in the gay community. I have a small circle of people that I work with and in retail there is always drama, but I try not to be a “negative nelly” Gossip is a part of the human behaviour and yes gay men tend to act like “english washer women”, yammering on about so and so’s what ever. You have to differentiate between what is fact and what is fiction, and if the person delivering said gossip/rumour, is doing so maliciously then take it as what it is. Sometimes what is said can be hurtful and yes you may have the urge to confront this person, but then ask yourself is this friendship really worth saving. My experience is an definite “NO” Limit your interaction with them or cut them out of your circle, do not stay in touch, ignore any text, ignore any phone calls, and maybe just maybe they will either get the hint that you are not interested with their friendship, or they may confront you and ask “what is wrong”. Your response to this would reflect your ability to be the bigger person and explain to this individual, that what was said was hurtful, very negative and that you do not have the time, or the energy to waste on “trivial gossip mongering” anybody wishes to pro port. Marc, if you can relay this message to Andrew then it is simply this: Keep your distance, they are not worth the energy to waste, they are not your friend because a true friend would not gossip maliciously, in fact they would defend your honour, by deflecting said gossip or rumour. It is that simple my friend, it is too bad we as humans have not learned this. Guys really, try to be nice and say something positive to each other, you just may be surprised at how that will escalate and make their day better and brighter. Just pay it forward.

   Thank you Marc, you are not the only one who can rant, this bothers me as well but we all can change our attitudes towards each other by being a little kinder. A smile can speak volumes. Thank you again my friend, and have a great week. Keep up the great video blogs I enjoy watching them, and yes I will give you my response. You are an inspiration, and I love you for it. Hope to hear from you, until then kisses and big hugs.

   Tony (from Canada)