I received a question from a young man named Daniele about coming out. Watch the video below to hear my answer. Here is his question..
“Hi Marc. I haven’t been a massive fan of yours until I saw your videos
on your youtube channel. You really entertained me and I was very
surprised to see how clever, kind, nice and polite you are. The thing
surprised me most is the way you consciously do porn. I have always
had this prejudice that porn actors are just people seeking easy money
not caring about possibly compromising their future. You obviously
showed me I was wrong. I even wanted to thank you because your videos
are very helpful and useful to those who approach to sex for the first
time because infos, sometimes, are so hard to find, especially this
kind of ones. Here my questions come:
1. Do you think homosexuality is something genetic? Why the major part
of gay people like musicals, lady gaga, shopping and other things like
they are written in the DNA?
2. I am 21 and I haven’t come out yet. Honestly I don’t feel the need.
Why do I have to tell everyone I am gay as I am confessing a crime? It
is something I am, so should I also ”out” that my hair is brown? The
real question is: do you think “outing” is something homophobic? I
mean, if being gay is something normal, why do I have to come out when
straight people don’t have to?
Sorry for the length of the e-mail and for any language mistake I have
done writing it.
With respect and admiration,
xoxo Daniele”
In my humble yet accurate opinion, coming out does not mean a declaration to the world, it is not a quest for acceptance , or a confession – as if you have done something wrong. Coming out is you being you.. the real you . No effort to hide anything. Do can do it verbally or simply living the life that you want and not the life others want for you.